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Traditionally in Mexico, as with many other Latin American countries, Santa Claus doesn't hold the cachet that he does in the United States. Rather, it is the three wise men who are the bearers of gifts, who leave presents in or near the shoes of small children. The Day of the Dead incorporates pre-Columbian beliefs with Christian elements. The holiday focuses on gatherings of family and friends to pray for and remember friends and family members who have died. There is an idea behind this day that suggests the living must attend to the dead so that the dead will protect the living.
Traditions connected with the holiday include building private altars honoring the deceased using sugar skulls , marigolds, and the favorite foods and beverages of the departed, and visiting graves with these as gifts.
The gifts presented turn the graveyard from a dull and sorrowful place to an intimate and hospitable environment to celebrate the dead. In modern Mexico and particularly in the larger cities and in the North, local traditions are now being observed and intertwined with the greater North American Santa Claus tradition, as well as with other holidays such as Halloween , due to Americanization via film and television, creating an economy of gifting tradition that spans from Christmas Day until January 6.
It is created to look like popular people, animals, or fictional characters. Once made it is painted with bright colors and filled with candy or small toys. It is then hung from the ceiling. The children then gather the candy and small toys.
Mexican cuisine is known for its blending of Indigenous and European cultures. Popular dishes include tacos , enchiladas , mole sauce , atole , tamales , and pozole.
Popular beverages include water flavored with a variety of fruit juices, and cinnamon-flavored hot chocolate prepared with milk or water and blended until it becomes frothed using a traditional wooden tool called a molinillo.
Alcoholic beverages native to Mexico include mescal , pulque , and tequila. Mexican beer is also popular in Mexico and are exported. There are international award-winning Mexican wineries that produce and export wine. The most important and frequently used spices in Mexican cuisine are chili powder , cumin , oregano , cilantro , epazote , cinnamon , and cocoa. Many Mexican dishes also contain onions and garlic , which are also some of Mexico's staple foods.
Next to corn , rice is the most common grain in Mexican cuisine. According to food writer Karen Hursh Graber, the initial introduction of rice to Spain from North Africa in the 14th century led to the Spanish introduction of rice to Mexico at the port of Veracruz in the s. This, Graber says, created one of the earliest instances of the world's greatest Fusion cuisine 's. The cuisine of Southeastern Mexico has quite a bit of Caribbean influence, given its geographical location.
In contemporary times, various world cuisines have become popular in Mexico, thus adopting a Mexican fusion. For example, sushi in Mexico is often made by using a variety of sauces based on mango and tamarind , and very often served with serrano -chili blended soy sauce, or complemented with vinegar, habanero peppers, and chipotle peppers. Chocolate originated in Mexico and was prized by the Aztecs.
It remains an important ingredient in Mexican cookery. The foundation of Mexican music comes from its indigenous sounds and heritage. The original inhabitants of the land used drums such as the teponaztli , flutes, rattles , conches as trumpets and their voices to make music and dances.
This ancient music is still played in some parts of Mexico. However, much of the traditional contemporary music of Mexico was written during and after the Spanish colonial period, using many old world influenced instruments.
Many traditional instruments, such as the Mexican vihuela used in Mariachi music , were adapted from their old world predecessors and are now considered very Mexican. Mexican society enjoys a vast array of music genres, showing the diversity of Mexican culture. Mexicans also listen to contemporary music such as pop and Mexican rock. Mexico has the largest media industry in Latin America, producing Mexican artists who are famous in the Americas and parts of Europe.
Folk songs called corridos have been popular in Mexico since the early nineteen hundreds. It may tell the story of the Mexican Revolution, pride, Mestizaje , romance, poverty, politics or crime. Notable Afro-Mexican contributions to the country's music are the Son Jarocho and the marimba. Mariachis perform along streets, festivals and restaurants.
Daniel always had a ready smile. He was self-contained, a loving husband and father and accomplished professionally—at that time he was CEO of a public company, making all manner of kitchen gadgets.
That night, he was shining. It looked to me like he had shed layers of himself; he was carrying no burden. He responded in an instant. Poise does not freak out over laundry, talk too much, go 90 miles an hour to make it to a meeting, or accidentally break things due to inattention.
After a great struggling 75 minutes of a vigorous athletic form of structured postures linked together by the breath we were practicing a form called Ashtanga yoga , the class arrived at Savasana , corpse pose, where we lay on our backs, arms outstretched, palms up, legs extended, letting all of our muscles relax, allowing our bones to sink into the floor, in a sort of half-state between sleeping and waking, a state of deep aware stillness.
Through the breathing, the rhythm, the turning inward of yoga—through the not turning to an external thing like whacking a tennis ball or working into the night —I found my first peace in long memory.
Yoga, as it has been popularized in the west, is often practiced with pumping music. People move fast and sweat and detox. If the connection between my feet and brain does not work, how am I going to connect to other people? Nor did I know where my organs were in my belly. My insides were like a black hole between my ribcage and my knees.
Can you feel where your liver is, unless it is in pain? After a while, I found that I could lift my arches and run an energetic current up my shins and thighs and ass and heart and right out the top of my head and back down again. The power I used in previous forms of athletics to release energy was something that could be channeled and leveraged inside of the body, to heal it and balance it, and restore equilibrium and clarity to my whole organism.
The yoga practice that was handed to me started a new kind of self-inquiry: Am I aware of my breath? Where am I looking? Where are my feet? Are all four corners of my feet on the ground? Are my arches lifted away? Where are my fingers? Are they evenly aligned or evenly spaced? Am I standing tall or leaning forwards or backwards? Where am I in space? How good is my proprioception: What am I actually feeling? What is actually happening?
It was a straight line to hyperawareness. I began to learn that the body has rising and falling energies, that when it gets certain inputs it releases certain chemicals, that there is a virtuous loop between the actions of the body and the chemicals that are released, and that this cycle is autonomic until we intervene and override it.
We can start to use our breathing and our thoughts to restructure which chemicals are getting released from our minds and into our bodies. We can reprogram ourselves, literally. Once I began, it was rapid-fire study. I went to my first class, and I knew I was going to return.
Eventually, I found a connection to divine source on that quiet, meditative, sweaty little mat, something I never quite got in any traditional church. That tiny studio, with a purple Om symbol painted on the wall, above a pizza parlor in the middle of Chicago, curtains blowing in, sirens and car horns below, became a holy place.
It was there that I discovered a sense of having a permeable body: I was made of the same stuff as everything else in the universe.
I wanted to go deeper. In , I went on a retreat led by power yoga founder Baron Baptiste. His easygoing introduction to yoga philosophy, musical open laugh, softness, strength, humor and accessibility just made me happy. For example, once we stayed for a full 20 minutes in a hip opener known as frog: Somatic theory says we hold our painful memories in the body, and holding this position for this long had people in the room women especially , letting go and weeping at all the things held in the groin and hips.
I took his teacher training in Tulum, just to keep growing. Then I stumbled, or was led, into a month of teacher training in an intense, academic program that honored a deep Indian lineage, with Yogarupa Rod Stryker- and that training has continued apace for the last 15 years — from the yoga of sound, to contact yoga, to extensive breath and tantric energy work, to studying Sanskrit texts — it is an unending investigation.
By investigating the body, I began to investigate the mind also, and then even deeper into relationships. Once, early on, I was holding a yoga position called side plank for a long time.
This position requires the body to form a long, firm, extended board, placing one hand on the floor, the other to the ceiling, and balancing between the side of the bottom foot and the palm of the hand, holding the belly snug and the hips high. It can be rigorous. My arms started shaking; my balance was challenged.
I invite you to look at your reaction to that. Are you feeling proud, or maybe the inverse: How can you be kind to yourself in this moment, play your edge, and take responsibility for your experience? How much are your own thoughts and reactions responsible for your own suffering? If side plank was hard, the other big practice, seated meditation, was harder. Sitting still, harboring a quiet mind, initially felt impossible.
Even two minutes of meditation felt interminable. Every part of me resisted. To make it easier, all kinds of techniques were offered: Watch your breath right where it enters and exits the nostrils, imagine a flame, say a mantra.
But it was all just practice to do one thing: To become a watcher of my own thoughts. But if I am watching my thoughts, who is thinking the thoughts? These thoughts must be separately constructed. I am not my thoughts. And if I am not my thoughts, I can un-identify and manipulate them to a better outcome. Lo and behold, this was true. By watching and stopping unhelpful patterns of thinking, I learned that I could change the day-to-day experience of life in my body.
Well, maybe one person. For example, I learned to not judge a rising emotion or thought — just to see it as neutral energy. If all thoughts and actions are only energy, neither positive nor negative, I can transmute it. I can remove the negative element, and just use the energy.
If an unsettling thought would arise, I would ask myself, what can I do other than sit here or numb out through work or busyness or sex or distraction?
What can I do to not numb out, to really feel and then leverage the emotion? Can I channel it into awareness, creative force, or even just let it pass through me? Most of the productivity and creativity in the last decade has been the result of having learned to transmute whatever intense emotion is coming up into an activity or action that is in touch with experience, rather than pushing it away.
Now, if I have disturbing thoughts, I can choose to be matter of fact: With yoga, the recovery time from these disturbances, delusions and illusions and suffering is shorter. It takes hardly any time anymore to come back, maybe a minute or two of breathing and —there it is!
This is especially useful in navigating the daily kind of potential offenses in traffic or in the supermarket parking lot — is this my best self acting here? Yoga roots me in a life-giving and life-affirming place, rather than the old soup of pervasive inadequacy. It has made me strong, mentally and physically.
The yogic ideal is strength and suppleness, being rooted yet able to reach, the perfect combination of grounded and flexible. There is an Indian fable that puts it sweetly: Ananta is strong enough to support the world, yet soft enough to be a couch for the gods. I started going to class to feel better, and fell in love with the practice, and it gave me back my life.
That translates into bringing others along with you. Whatever you know, you are obligated to pass on: Those who know must teach. If you know, you owe. Teaching yoga, helping one person at a time find the tools and technologies to achieve the Poise of the Soul, is a great gift. I sometimes teach Vinyasa flow classes. Sometimes, I teach extremely stiff people, and witness what it means to grow old without being connected to your body—it is not for the faint of heart.
But I also see the relief they get from a single new insight or opening into a joint or the breath. It makes me recall my very first practice, and remember each time a teacher gave me a new posture or an insight. It reawakens gratitude and it gifts me with joyful learning.
If you enjoyed what you just read, download a page excerpt at http: Click here to sign up and get automatically reminded of when it happens. That whole story I tell about having written the book before my sex-change operation? I made it all up. And yet, here I am, dispensing advice to womenfolk on being a better woman. In fact, many of you, my readers, are plenty wise. Julie has an unusual perspective on all of this:. He told her he had kids from a previous relationship and lived alone.
She was in a long distance relationship with him for months before I found out who she was and told her the truth. It was a very sexually active and enthusiastic physical relationship in our marriage, and we were not fighting or distant.
He was a messed up human being inside who was a very good actor. It just takes one broken person. He had been binge drinking on work trips, too, and I never knew. He was a mess across the board.
But the kicker is, she believed his lies long-distance and got back together with him. All while he was still lying to her about various things. They eventually broke up, but she still thinks she had some great love with him and even said nobody knows him like she does. After seeing what long distance looked like that way, how easily it all was hidden whereas I discovered his behavior within two weeks of it starting , I would never advise it to anybody.
He had a breakdown in life and the affair was only part of it. He messed up his friends, family, work, and finances at the same time too. Of course long distance can be done. People have made it. Or than seeing a sudden change in a married partner or dating partner locally would likely be.
Such a great letter! The other woman has no way of getting to know the cheating husband very well, so she constructs out of whole cloth this whole story about how great he is.
Another great letter on the topic of long-distance relationships comes from Marcy. Her perspective is slightly different:. We saw each other every couple of months for days until I moved to be with him and talked obsessively, both sacrificing countless relationships with people who were available locally. Was it worth it? In a way, yes! We have two children and built a relatively stable, often happy, in person life together that has lasted longer than many traditional marriages.
But I would likely never do it again. And we WERE genuinely compatible in the ways we experienced. Long distance relationships allow you to idealize positive traits for an extended period of time while grossly undervaluing negative traits.
The intensity of the sex once you finally see each other, coupled with the future planning, almost guarantees it. Sex was intensely magical at a distance, but soon became detached and uncompromising once we saw each other regulary. Sunk costs began playing their part: We married and began moving towards a sexless marriage in my late 20s. Now in my mid 30s, we have neither kissed nor had sex in years. You have no idea what someone is doing while it appears that they are deeply engaged in a chat with you.
While imagined him laying on his bed staring at his laptop screen in anticipation of my messages, my husband was undoubtedly playing videogames the vast majority of the time we were chatting. This became apparent when we moved in together and I realized that he struggled to look at me during conversations or have any serious face-to-face interactions with me at all. In fact, this was one of the greatest downfalls in our marriage. My husband is a gamer and much prefer spending large portions of his free time engaging online friends.
This did not change when I moved and is an enormous incompatibility that I downplayed. Playing video games alone is more fun than talking in person which he hates , or playing with our children which he dislikes , or even having sex. He also prefers exceptional amounts of emotional distance, evident in seeking a long-distance relationship. You can insist on having separate hobbies, circles of friends, or vacations. You can subscribe to a multi-partner lifestyle like polyamory or swinging. Women picking matches for their friends: But what if there was an app that let you pick matches for your friends?
Would that be more useful? Recently I came across such a collaborative matchmaking app. So you get to meet dates that you have friends or interests in common with, as opposed to the stream of randos you see on most dating apps. Am I totally convinced this works? But it does seems worthy of a closer look.
A few months ago, I gave a TEDx talk third one! The Five Pillars of Authentic Success. The first of the five pillars is Intimate Relationships.
To be fair, the talk is not entirely about dating. But The Tao of Dating has always been about the whole person anyway, because dating brings into play all of who you are. Why do you think half the book is about yoga, meditation, mindfulness, gratitude and other happiness practices? The Tao of Dating Superfan Contest for the ladies only. Some of you have listened to the audiobook over 20 times. Some of you have gotten copies of the book for a dozen friends.
Some of you have memorized entire passages. Some of you sleep with a copy of it in your pillowcase, even thought it makes the pillow lumpy. This makes Kip sad, of course, because he still has or so books on him, and he just wants to be held and read — preferably in your bed because well Kip is a guy duh. Some of the illustrious titles in this library:. So just to make this clear: Below is how you score points.
If I come up with more ways to score points, I will let you know. The talk has 5 themes: How to get better at selecting men: Avoiding psychopaths and sociopaths. The heart-spine selection criteria. Avoiding Bad Boys in favor of selecting Good Guys. How to present the best possible version of you. How to find him at his best: Set up dating so you win. How to avoid unforced errors: We covered a lot of ground during the workshop.
More specifically, I talked about six themes: Here are some simple ways you can get out of the way of your own success: Some of you were kind enough to answer my second survey question: In the meantime, here are the preliminary results of the survey. This response summarized the challenge nicely: It turns out to be a source of considerable concern for a lot of ladies, as this poignant response shows: First, the letter from reader Lainie: You should take up needlepoint.
The jerk is also predictable: Not very interesting or pleasant. A Big Question for You As I sit here in front of a computer screen with nary a reader of mine in sight, I often ask myself: Go forth and conquer, Dr Ali PS: Active vs passive interest. How is he looking at you? Is he interested in you specifically, or just women in general? Having been that interested guy often, here are some things that come to mind: You are not a potted plant: Pick one depending on your level of interest and boldness: The praise sandwich has three components: Start with praise and appreciation, e.
End with praise and appreciation, e. This makes it less personal, so even if the unsavory things about him are true, he can hold his head up high and legitimately count you as a friend. Some of the questions we covered: What do you do when most of the guys you meet are younger than you?
How about an emotionally unavailable guy? How do you make him open up? Why is it that you always read about women having to change, but not men? The 15min excerpt below talks about the prime directives in male and female behavior, and how that creates three choices for strong women when it comes to choosing and relating to a man: Other topics covered in this talk: The two components of partnership with a Good Guy: Go forth and conquer, Dr Ali.
A few ways of doing that: Is there a central glitch in the human mate-selection operating system, and if so, how is it showing up in your life? Look forward to seeing you soon, Dr Ali. I understand that many of you had a rough week. So if you are not feeling tip-top, here are some ways to improve your resilience and bounce back, pronto: And just so you can have even more faith in yourself, here are two resources straight from my secret stash that have been very useful to me: All the best, Dr Ali.
I am not exaggerating when I say these folks are the best at what they do: Or the fact that even though he truly loves me, thinks the world of me and would do anything for me, he believes that any relationship will become routine.
Whereas I believe that maybe most of us get married for the wrong reasons, and we simply mistakenly label different emotions as love, and so we inevitably would end up not content with our marriage and choose to leave or cheat. All humans suffer, however. We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time.
Use the rubber-band technique. Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Any time you start to worry, ruminate or overthink, snap yourself so it stings a little. Your brain will very rapidly learn to stop doing the behavior that leads to the snap. You can kick habits like this in less than a week — sometimes in as little as two days.